Saturday, October 31, 2009

Week 39-Still Pregnant

Still waiting on Baby L...the good news is that this will be my last Weekly Pregnancy post! This really has been a wonderful week. I finally took the time to relax and enjoy some quiet time around the house. I also had some great lunches and dinners with family and good friends and have truly felt that each day is a gift from Baby L (not that I haven't been impatient too!). I will likely not have this kind of time for a VERY long time! That being said, we are so ready to meet Baby L, the anticipation is really getting to us. Three different nights this week we really thought "this is it!"....I was having contractions, some were getting painful and things seemed to be moving in the right direction. Each night, we forced ourselves to go to bed to try to rest in case this was the big night, and each morning we woke up with me still pregnant and no Baby L!

Yesterday Dr. Loften was actually surprised to see me. Last week Baby L was already so low that I think she, too, thought he would come. So, yesterday she gave me the option to induce on Friday November 6th, if he hasn't yet arrived. We went ahead and scheduled everything at the hospital for next Friday...SO at the VERY latest we will meet our son in 6 days! Just the thought of it makes me smile. I am really holding out hope though that our little guy surprises us on his own. One thing they told us in birthing class is that NOTHING ever goes as you have it planned in your mind when it comes to the birth of a child. I guess Drew and I have just always envisioned the surprise and excitement of going in to labor, the trip to the hospital etc. We think that is so much of the fun and anticipation of having, especially, your first child. I am a little bummed about the thought of having to be induced, but the most important thing is the Baby L arrives healthy and I know as soon as I see his little face it won't matter how he got here, when it happened, etc., just that he is now safely with us.

So, in the mean time, we will continue to wait. The house is clean and organized, the nursery is ready, the bags are packed, and Drew and I are on pins and needles! We will keep you all posted as soon as Baby L is here, we can't wait to introduce him to all of you!

Monday, October 26, 2009

5 Things to Never Say to a Pregnant Woman

First, let me say that I am not cranky at all! I am in a great mood...feeling totally patient for Baby L to arrive on his on time frame, that is not what is spawning this post! Just more reminders of how inappropriately people behave around pregnant women! All of these things happened to me THIS MORNING while running errands!

Also, these are things that a STRANGER should not say to a pregnant woman, if you are my family or friend for the majority of these things you are in the clear...but if you don't know a pregnant woman and you find yourself asking these questions...shame on you!

1. "How much weight have you gained?"

This is totally unacceptable. If I noticed that you were heavier than the last time I saw you, or that you were heavier overall and I asked YOU how much weight you had gained, you would probably slap me, and you aren't even hormonal! Why on earth does it matter how much weight I have gained and why do you think that it is any of your business? This is not a socially acceptable question under any circumstances. The same holds true after a pregnant woman has had her baby...DO NOT ask her how much weight she has lost. Seriously people.

2. "Man, you are about to pop aren't you?"

Dumb question, period. What if she isn't ready to pop and you have just totally rattled her? Even if you are about to pop, as I am, this question is still annoying. There are better ways to phrase this very question such as: When are you due?

3. "Are you sure that baby is big enough? Are you eating enough?"

My baby is plenty big. If there were concerns my doctor would address them, and so everyone reading this knows...I am measuring right on track. Why on earth would a stranger try to plant fears in a pregnant woman's mind? Not only do you have no idea what I typically look like, since when did you go to medical school and become an OBGYN...that's right, you don't know what you are talking about. Leave it to the experts people and keep your opinions to yourself.

4. "How far dilated are you?"

Really? Whats happening with my cervix is between me and my cervix. Why on earth would someone I don't know want to know what's going on down there?

5. "Waddle, Waddle"

Don't even get me started on this. As if the end of pregnancy isn't uncomfortable enough, having a stranger point it out makes it even worse. Try walking around with a human head between your legs for weeks. I think I am doing pretty darn well.

There are many kind, sensitive things to say to a pregnant woman and truth be told, many people say them, and I appreciate you! But, again, if you find these phrases slipping out of your mouth, STOP!

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Week 38-Let the Games Begin!

Rigley and Bentley just can't help but get in every picture recently!

My mom the night before I was born! I hope I can be as good of a mom as she has been to me!

We are definitely in the home stretch! I had a great week off work, although it was far from the relaxing, resting time that I believe this pre-maternity leave time was intended for! I was busy running errands, cleaning, and taking care of all kinds of things on my to do list. I still have 2 books I would like to read and 4 closets to clean out, although my body (and Drew) is telling me that naps and relaxing are first on the priority to do list!

Friday we went to see Dr. Loften and things are looking good for Baby L! I will spare you the details, but Baby L is definitely making progress toward joining us! I went to the appointment prepared to lobby Dr. Loften into a compromise so that my induction date (if needed) would not be Friday the 13th. Since Baby L is making progress, she said she would not let me go past my due date! I am so excited! It is totally surreal that in 2 weeks or less, we will have a baby. I went to visit a friend this week that just recently had a baby and I can't believe that one of those is actually living in my belly! You would think I would have grasped that after 38 weeks, but I am not sure that reality has really sunk in!

I am having lots of contractions, especially in the evening and at night, and some are starting to get a little painful. Nothing with any pattern (obviously since I am sitting at home typing this blog), but I have a feeling Baby L is getting ready! I second guess every little (and big) twinge...and am constantly wondering "is this it?"

Saturday, October 17, 2009

Week 37-Different?

So I am officially on maternity leave!!! Today may be Saturday, but that means NOTHING to me right now! I am really looking forward to this time...although it IS very difficult to plan how to spend my time until Baby L arrives! I have a LONG list of To Do items and I feel an urgency to get them all checked off in the first few days just in case. Yet, if Baby L hangs out another 3 weeks, or worse yet, shows up late in 4 weeks...I will go insane from boredom!

Nothing to this point makes me think Baby L has any intention of showing up early. I hope he holds out until the 25th, because I really want to go to the KU vs. OU game next weekend! Tonight we are having some friends over for the KU game and it just may be our last hurrah at Casa de la Keller for awhile.

This weeks picture is really just for fun. This is my 14 weeks pic VS. my 37 weeks pic. Obviously, a lot can change in a mere 23 weeks! I am proud to say that I fit into every item of clothing that I wore in that 14 week shot...including my jeans...not that any of them fit well...and NOT that I would wear any of them in public...but hey I still squeezed my way in!

Please send patience vibes my way, because I really need them! :)

Monday, October 12, 2009

Week 36-The Light at the End of the Tunnel (Literally?)

One week closer! Friday we went for our 36 week checkup. First, Dr. Loften confirmed that my due date is in fact November 7th, not November 9th. She said that everything looked great with Baby L and right on track. Since things are going so well there is no reason for us to come back for our scheduled appointment next week. We will see her again at 38 weeks when she will officially "check" things out and see where we are in this whole process. She also said, much to my dismay, that if Baby L doesn't come on his own she will wait to induce me until 41 weeks, which means that if I must be induced, it will be Friday November 13th...Friday the must be kidding me! She knocked on wood and said she has never had a problem on Friday the 13th! Even though I hope Baby L comes long before November 13th, it is also VERY reassuring to have an end date to this pregnancy in sight. No matter what, at MOST in 32 days Baby L will be here!

This week is also my final week of work prior to my maternity leave. I am pretty excited (understatement of the year) to not have to dress up each day (especially since fall skipped over us and winter feels like it is here and I have NO warm clothes that fit!), lift bags and boxes in and out of my car and most importantly to not set an alarm! I am hoping to read quite a few books regarding developing healthy sleep habits, infant care and breastfeeding during this time and of course do some major cleaning and organization of the house. I also plan on taking lots of long walks to coax Baby L right along! We have our final class on Tuesday, Breastfeeding. Drew thinks he has earned a Bachelor's degree in Child Birth at this point with all the classes we have taken! We are as ready as we will ever be!

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

What's Missing?

So we finally have completed the nursery! All that's missing is Baby L! We had a lot of fun putting together Baby L's room! We had lots of help from family and friends. My mom helped me paint, put furniture together and hang the valances, a friend put up our chair rail, Drew's Granddad allowed us to raid his scrap books from college when he played football for KU, and many family and friends gave us lots of great gifts to fill his room from animals and wall hangings to rockers both Mom and Dad sized AND Baby L sized! We are also very grateful to Drew's Granddad and parents for helping us purchase the furniture in the nursery.
Our favorite part of putting together the nursery was pouring through Drew's Granddad's college and sports memorabilia. He had literally a dozen scrap books with newspaper clippings, pictures, playbooks, you name it from his days at KU. Above the crib is actually a pullout from the very first EVER Sports Illustrated. It has baseball cards from all the greats: Willie Mays, Jackie Robinson, Ted Williams to name just a few.

Above the changing table are two game day playbooks from KU football games Drew's Granddad played in during the 1944 season and the College Gridiron Review from the the 1944 football season. We had at least 6 others that we would have loved to frame. The artwork on the front of the play books is just incredible...things definitely are no longer what they used to be!
Above the glider is a special print that Baby L's Aunt Jenny gave us. I love the words on the print: For a long time, there were only your footprints and laughter in our dreams and even from such small things, we knew we could not wait to love you forever.

Here is a closeup shot of one of the black and white photo frames. This frame has a picture of Drew's Granddad in his KU football uniform as well as pictures of both Drew's Dad and my Dad in their baseball uniforms in the late 1950s! Below this frame is the frame of Drew and me as infants in the hospital that my mom gave us at the shower.
We had to laugh as we finished hanging everything on the walls Sunday night...when Drew and I looked around our OWN bedroom we don't have a single framed picture hanging on the walls! Baby L is literally getting the royal treatment...his room might be one of the only "finished" rooms in our home!

Saturday, October 3, 2009

Baby's L's One Shining Moment

When do you think Baby L will make his grand entrance? Vote to the right!

Week 35-Faith

This week Drew and I celebrated our four year wedding anniversary. For me, this was by far the most meaningful anniversary we have had. As we thought back over the last year of our lives at dinner on Thursday night, we reiterated what a challenging year we have had on several levels. When we stood at the alter in October 2005 and made vows to love each other for better and for worse, in sickness and in health, etc, we meant it, but I don't know that we really understood it. This year we got our first glimpse at understanding it. We have faced both unimaginable joy as well as unthinkable pain this year. We aren't naive enough to believe we had seen all sides of "for better or for worse" only four years into our marriage. We have faith that we haven't even tipped the iceberg of how joyous our lives together will be, and the reality is that over the next 50+ years we will again face many trials and pain. What we do know after this past year is that regardless of what joys or pains life brings us, we are stronger and better than we would have ever dreamed when we made our vows and that we can face anything together.

I hope Baby L realizes how lucky he is to have two parents who already love and adore him and will do anything for him. We are much better parents today than we would have been a year ago, and I know we will probably look back in another 4, 10, 20 plus years and think how clueless we were at this juncture! But, I know we are ready and I could not have chosen a better partner than Drew to share the journey of life and parenthood with.

We are so excited that this year of marriage is going to start off with the greatest joy of all, a new life for our family! As you can see Baby L has been having quite the growth spurt as he gets ready to join us!